Think You Know Me Thursday: Friday Edition

16 Nov

Sorry today’s post is coming at ya tomorrow…or yesterday’s post is coming at ya today…however you want to look at it.  I am a day late on getting this post published.

Today, Thursday, I received a comment on one of my posts from early on in my journey.  This comment was voicing concern over the type of diet I am on.  While I completely understand the concern over very calorie restrictive, high liquid content diets, I feel this person had not read through enough of my blog to truly voice the opinion/concern that they did.  I was reassured by them that the comments were not meant as an attack, but at their heart I felt the comments were judgmental.  At the very least, they inferred/implied that I would most likely end up ill, and I would gain all the weight back because I was chasing a quick fix to weight loss in order to be skinny.

I am sure the author would disagree that this was the intent, but the words and how little credit I was given for being informed and in control, were at the very least insulting.

I don’t want followers who simply kiss my rear and tell me how fabulous I am.  I am big enough to handle a differing opinion.  My issue is, I have not endorsed my methods as the answer to any ones problem but my own.  I have also expressed time and time again that my main focus is my health and fitness level.  I am not doing what I am to be skinny.  My blog name is not FatChicktoSkinnyChick for a reason.  I want to be around as long as possible for my daughter and my husband.  If you even read and absorbed a fraction of my blog, you would know that there is nothing I would value more than being healthy and able bodied for them.  So to imply that I would be risking my life to have a quick fix to being overweight is not at all accurate, and you obviously don’t know me.

The implication that I am at high risk for gaining the weight back simply because of how I am losing the weight is incorrect and very hurtful.  This plays into one of my biggest fears…regain.  It is proven time and again that regardless of the way you lose the weight, regain is a very real and a very scary reality that anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight has to deal with.  Regardless of the diet, you have to change your life, your mind, and your attitude.  This is true in every weight loss story…regardless of how fast the weight comes off.  The fact that the person commenting believes that I am losing too quickly goes to show that they are not keeping up with my full journey before jumping to conclusions.

I have been on this journey for 24 weeks.  I have lost 73 lbs.  That equals an average of 3.04 lbs per week.  Everywhere on the web cautions that the recommended weight loss per week does not exceed 2-3 lbs per week.  So, I ask you do this sound like I am losing at some grossly accelerated rate?  If you look at my weight loss history, it was faster in the beginning and is slowing down some as of the recent months.

I know that I won’t continue to lose at this rate until I reach my ultimate goal weight.  I am okay with this fact, but  I am enjoying the faster results while they last.  Consistently losing is one of the best motivators.  When you have 173 lbs to lose, don’t you think getting motivation anywhere you can will help?  If I was not having success losing, I might have quit by now.  The initial big weight loss, helped me get over the hump I have never been able to conquer.  I have never in my life committed to healthy changes for more than 2 months tops.  Ever.  If the fact that I am a week away from my 6 month mark of eating less, eating better, and exercising regularly are not proof that I take this seriously as a lifestyle change (not a quick magic fix) then I don’t know what kind of proof you are looking for.

That being said, I am not doing this for anyone besides myself and my daughter.  That is it.  So, no one has to agree with my methods for me to feel proud of myself and proud of how hard I am working.  I know that I am bettering my health, changing my lifestyle, and being smart about the things I do.

 Being smart includes straying from the program guidelines when I feel like I need more “real food” that day.  It also includes bucking the system by ignoring the advice to only do cardio.  I read, I research, and I make my own decisions.  I am not some brainless zombie following any plan set in front of me because all I want is to be “skinny” tomorrow.  I decided that the science behind the importance of strength training was sound.  I decided that even if it slowed down my weight loss, it was the smart and “healthy” thing to do.  I want muscle mass to keep my body from shutting down my metabolism.  I am not willing to lose weight at any cost.  I work my butt off, I exercise self control, and right now my diet is very restrictive.  It works for me.  It is not for everyone and it can be dangerous if you aren’t willing to make tweaks that result in better long term results at the risk of slowing the short term ones.

I do not feel that I have given the impression or advised anyone that starving yourself is the answer nor is that something I am interested in doing to myself.  I eat when I am hungry.  I avoid unhealthy temptations including “healthy treats”.  I work out.  That is my life and my reality.  I am not deluded or expecting magic or miracles.  I am expecting that my dedication, hard work, and change of mindset are going to make me successful.

Regardless of whether I reach my ultimate goal weight in the next year or next two years.  My battle is the same.  The demons I have to conquer are the same.  Every person is different and every journey is different.

I get asked questions about my diet and kettlebells often, and I am working on a FAQ for both to be published in future posts.  I would like to take this opportunity to invite anyone with questions to ask in the comments below or email me at fatchicktofitchick@gmail.com.

Like I said in the beginning of this post, I am welcoming to differing opinions.  I think asking me questions and getting to know me and my situation before passing judgement or insinuating negative things about me or my journey is the responsible and respectful way to handle it.

The comment from the ill-informed poster set one of my besties, Minus The 46, off.  She is the person that I discuss my journey with the most.  She is a crossfittin, paleo eatin Fit Chick who motivates me to kill it in my workouts and has my back like I am in the mob with her.  Show her some love for loving this FitChick enough to give me credit where credit is due.

Don’t forget to get your questions in to me.  I am an open book and willing to share whatever you would like to know.

Stay Strong and Keep Moving,

17 Responses to “Think You Know Me Thursday: Friday Edition”

  1. Laura @ Chaotic Domestic November 16, 2012 at 3:18 pm #

    Sorry that you got a comment that left you feeling judged. I think it’s a great journey you’ve started on and you are doing it for the right reasons. You’ve made great progress and it seems that you’re doing it in the best way for you. Don’t get discouraged by others and keep up the good work. I think you have your priorities straight, so that will certainly help you keep the weight off, for you and your daughter.
    Best wishes and hope you have a great weekend.

    • fatchicktofitchick November 16, 2012 at 3:24 pm #

      Thanks Laura. I tried to not let it bother me, but it did. I just think after defending my choices, I still received no credit from this person for anything I was doing right…other than wanting it badly. It just bothered me because I don’t want others who read to think that I am willing to risk my life over the pursuit to be thin, or that I am not willing to work for it. Nothing will change my outlook. I just wanted to share my feelings with the good readers out there and invite questions for any that are curious or have concerns. Thanks for being such a loyal reader and supporter. You are awesome!

  2. sookisu November 16, 2012 at 7:44 pm #

    There are as many different methods as there are people. You are so right to advocate doing what is right for you. People may judge, people may preach, but until they live in your skin they have no right to make your decisions. I love following your progress and think you’re a real inspiration. S

  3. Jane November 16, 2012 at 11:18 pm #

    Girl, follow your heart and keep putting one foot in front of the other. You WILL reach your goal because you believe in you! I love reading your blog because you keep me on the straight path. You are correct with strength training. I did it throughout my whole journey and still strength train. I did a 50 lb kettle ball last week! Strength training makes your bones stronger. My bone density test was proof of that. You are on the right path. By the way, my favorite post was “Romancing the Scone” truer words were never written. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your family.

    • fatchicktofitchick November 26, 2012 at 2:19 pm #

      Thanks Jane! 50lb kettlebell…be still my heart! I am finally rocking the 25lber on most of my exercises. I will be over the moon when I get up to 50! You are so awesome!

  4. worthweighting November 17, 2012 at 12:13 am #

    First of all, I’ve been meaning to comment on your blog because I read you regularly and you are so inspiring in so many ways. What you are doing takes tremendous strength and tenacity, especially with a toddler in tow! I’m struggling in my weight loss journey, but reading your posts helps me find my way and gives me a daily reminder of how excuses are only excuses. I can do this regardless of the stresses of raising my two little boys, and juggling work and home life. I can do it because you do it! So, thank you for that. As for the unfortunate comment, anyone who would be so judgemental very obviously doesn’t have a healthy mindset themselves, so I really wouldn’t take it to heart. However you choose to lose the weight is completely about what works for you and what is right for you. So many are cheering you on, so keep at it, girl! You’re amazing!

    • fatchicktofitchick November 26, 2012 at 2:16 pm #

      This is one of the best comments ever! Thank you for sharing this with me. The best side effect of sharing my journey is hearing from people like you that say I help them. I never in a million years thought that I could help anyone (let alone myself) lose weight and be healthy. That is the greatest compliment every. I appreciate your support and taking the time to tell me this. It is a struggle for so many of us and it is so awesome to find help in each other! Thanks again!

  5. Jennifer Szescula Flanagan November 17, 2012 at 9:10 am #

    You’ve found a path that works for you to get you healthier and stronger – you know it works for you and you work it. That is to be celebrated!! It is amazing how many negative comments can be hidden in “I just want to make sure you aren’t doing something unhealthy.” You are losing weight at a normal rate and are taking care of yourself – I wish we would support that in each other instead of critiquing and judging each others methods. I have a plan that works for me. When I follow it, I get told I’m not eating enough by well meaning friends and family. What they don’t realize is that I ate enough before to have sane portions when I see them! It’s your path and your lifestyle and don’t let anyone tell you or make you justify otherwise. Yes, it’s good to discuss these things and learn from others and to take what works for you and leave the the rest. We just have to watch that we still stay supportive during it. You do rock and don’t forget it!

    • fatchicktofitchick November 26, 2012 at 2:11 pm #

      Thanks so much Jennifer!!! I really appreciate your support and encouragement. I think we should be more supportive of each other and especially when people do not know our personal struggles, keep judgement too themselves.

  6. trixfred30 November 17, 2012 at 12:13 pm #

    I think two things here – lose weight any way you damn well please. And I love the fact that you have Marjorie Doors from Little Britain on your blog!

    • fatchicktofitchick November 17, 2012 at 1:58 pm #

      Lol THANK YOU! I absolutely love Little Britain so much! I also found Come Fly With Me recently and was in heaven! We of course only get to see either show when Netflix graces us with them. I was hoping someone would recognize greatness when I selected that picture!

      • trixfred30 November 17, 2012 at 2:04 pm #

        Oh those two are a national institution over here – if you like that you should try the Fast Show – very British….

      • fatchicktofitchick November 17, 2012 at 2:15 pm #

        I certainly will! I love British humor! Shameless is one of my all time favorite shows! I started watching when the Sundance channel started airing it from the beginning a few years back. Then out of no where they stopped after series 6. Just recently Netflix added series 7 and 8 so I have been trying to catch up to that point. Another favorite of mine is IT Crowd. I welcome all suggestions!

  7. Amanda Little November 24, 2012 at 9:22 pm #

    Applause to you for sticking to your guns! I think sometimes people voice their opinion JUST so they can say they have one. Hang tough girl, everyone’s got their view points.

  8. Amanda Z November 26, 2012 at 3:51 pm #

    I have been following you on Instagram for a while and finally made it over to your blog! I have to say, that I don’t know your whole backstory, but it is obvious that you have found something that works for you and are sticking to it. For that, I say good for you! There is no one miracle cure for weightloss (unfortunately) so there is a reason that there are so many different methods available. I’m so glad that I found this today and I look forward to reading more about your journey!

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