Like A Beastie Boy

5 Feb

So much of this weight loss journey is mental…hell who am I kidding it is like 99.9999% mental.  I often talk about pre-blog, pre-Fit Chick In Training, pre-changed woman, me with my friends, sister and hubs.  During these convos, I almost always have some sort of mind blowing epiphany about my weight loss struggles through the years.

The most recent realization was how much Hubs and I used to sabotage each other when it came to making this whole healthy lifestyle thing stick.

Second to ourselves, we were each others own worst enemies in this area.  He was a willing accomplice in my fat chick life.  He loved me no matter what I weighed.  He found me attractive regardless, and he had no problem throwing down a crap ton of garbage food with me.  We were a match made in fatty heaven.

The sabotage part would come in the form of tempting each other to eat “just this one meal” or have this “cheat meal”….or by convincing the other that “I am going to eat this crap because I have had a crap day and deserve it.”  Thus insuring that they would not try to sway you from indulging and would pass no judgement.

Neither of us are mean vindictive people.  We truly want each other to be happy, but the problem was not the sane logical conscience…it was that lazy conflicted inner fat sub-conscience causing us to act like dbags because we were afraid somewhere deep inside that if our better half succeeded, we would have to give up the deep fried butter and get up off our fat tuckus and work for it to0.

This just goes to show you how much of an illness food addiction/obesity truly is.  It is sick to think now about the hubs and I constantly sabotaging not only ourselves, but each other…the sad fact is that we did.

He and I discussed this and he totally agreed that while it was not something knowingly calculated, we did selfishly keep each other fat and unhealthy.

Luckily we have both been able to break some really bad habits and this terrible cycle that we were in for so long.

We are celebrating our 10 year wedding anniversary this summer, and are already planning some white water rafting, laser tag!!!!!, and maybe horseback riding.  Hubs mentioned to me that he loves this new active me, after I was the one suggesting all these fun ideas for us.  I am just glad that it only took us 10 years to figure out how to stop this enabling cycle and be healthy together.  It makes it so much easier to be fit and healthy when you have a willing counterpart in your life.  Just like it was easier to be lazy and fat when we were both complacent in that life as well.

This is how you karaoke…

Stay Strong and Keep Moving,


9 Responses to “Like A Beastie Boy”

  1. Katie J February 5, 2013 at 1:43 pm #

    It is definitely so overwhelmingly a mental battle. You are doing an amazing job!

  2. sjvella February 5, 2013 at 1:57 pm #

    It is a mental battle, it is all about the head. When I am not doing right decision I know that is because my head is not in it, so you have to fix your head first and then keep going with a healthy life.

  3. Sam February 5, 2013 at 3:44 pm #

    I can so relate to this post! My husband and I completely do the same sabotaging that you spoke about above. It’s almost like a – If I am going to be fat, then you are going to be fat with me – mentality. Sometimes the hubs will suggest a fast food joint and I will say something like I will go with you but I am not going to get anything and he will get all huffy and puffy and say something like what is the point if you aren’t going to get anything and I give in and end up getting “something small” but still horrible for me! And I am no angel either, I know his weaknesses is, so if I am craving some junk and want a junk eatin’ buddy I know what to suggest … It really is a sad viscous cycle. I hope that getting my act together will have positiive influences on my husband and his decisions but in the end the decision has to be his. He has agreed to try eating better and he said he would start doing races with me (for fun, of course!) … so anyways, I am babbling but I totally get what you are saying in this here post! =)

  4. Bailey @ Onederland or Bust! February 5, 2013 at 4:28 pm #

    My boyfriend and I are very similar. He LOVES food, especially bad food and of course he’s not overweight (it’s catching up to him though). He met me when I was almost 40lbs heavier and loves me no matter what, but he has a hard time giving up the bad food. We really need to start becoming more active together.

  5. Jane February 5, 2013 at 4:44 pm #

    Happy Anniversary, may God continue to bless you both. Jen, you are doing an amazing thing by following a healthy lifestyle while young. It’s good for Tink to grow up knowing no other way. I know I told you this before, but you are truly blest in having a supportive husband.

  6. roberta February 5, 2013 at 10:05 pm #

    I agree, this process is 99.99% mental

    Not only other people sabotage us (not unwillingly) but we sabotage ourselves all the time, at least I do!
    I am still trying to get back into it since Christmas…..

    Great progress by the way, I am a new reader!

  7. Candis February 6, 2013 at 12:48 am #

    My husband and I were just talking about this… We are guilty of doing the same thing, but working on overcoming it!

  8. stephanie February 6, 2013 at 1:09 am #

    my husband and I have been guilty of the same thing. Actually i think he still is since he isnt eating healthier with me :/

  9. Bethany February 6, 2013 at 10:34 pm #

    Thank you so much for posting this. It really hit home for me (and my hubs) and I am doing my best to confront this problem head on. Both of us have 100+ lbs to lose so I know it will be work-hard work-but I also know that the reward of being fit for ourselves and each other will greatly outweigh my love of food. Way to go on your progress & thanks for your honesty!

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